Mental Excursions

After the sirens fade. Monday morning, I peered again. The pigeon’s eggs on my ledge had hatched, two new chicks could be seen, glued to the safety of the wall next to the nest. For the last two weeks, my once-in-the-forenoon routine had been to open the window, peek, say ‘hello’ to mama pigeon as she stared at me with her round, pink-rimmed eyes, and click the window shut, lest she should think of me as a threat. I looked at the phone screen, checking the notifications. One message from a niece’s husband who rarely speaks in the family chat group. Since the news broke, my mind has been walking through buildings my child once knew by heart. I was not thinking of events. I was thinking of fear, how quickly it enters a place we once called safe, and how it refuses to leave a parent’s body. We are a family where many of our children have called Brown University home. Then I saw a message from my son. “The weekend was very tough.’ ‘ Log bahut dukhi hain (People are very sad)...

Why my doorbell rings more than my phone! The doorbell rang. Still chewing the spicy matthi , I put down my cup of tea, got up, and opened the door. A young man in a navy-blue suit stood there, another behind him carrying a tall, colourful cake box and a small bag which clearly contained paper plates and spoons. “ Cake delivery hai ,” the nattily dressed one announced.   “ Humne to cake khareeda ya mangaya nahin . (We did not buy or order a cake),” I said, covering my now chilli-burnt mouth. He helpfully added the name of the bakery, hoping it would jog my memory, “ Aapke yahan se cake order hua tha . (A cake had been ordered from your place).” Forever ready to help, I said, “ Humne cake to nahin mangaya, par aap dena chahte hain to de dijiye ! (We did not order a cake but if you wish to give it, please give it.)” For a split-second, the criminal in me tried to sprout, I even considered keeping the cake. His smile uncertain, he paused for a second, then asked, “D… yaha...

Meta-declutter: Too Much About Too Much My name is Anupama, and I am a decluttering addict. I began with a noble intention of decluttering my needlework cupboard stuffed with supplies and projects including incomplete or abandoned ones for which, somewhere along the way, I had lost the mojo. A simple, domestic act of sanity and an effort to make my son’s life easier. But somewhere between ‘simply your life’, and ‘outer order leads to inner calm’, I fell into a rabbit hole lined with experts, sub-experts, and sub-sub-experts. I didn’t reduce my clutter. I simply upgraded it, into meta-clutter. Suddenly my problem was not things; it was theories, methods, philosophies, newsletters, and gurus i.e. clutter about decluttering. Decluttering (and overcoming consumerism), has been not just a task for me, but has become a lifestyle, or rather, a full-time occupation. For years, I had gathered information on it and made complete word files, folders, sub-folders, flow charts and what no...