That is not what I meant

That is not what I meant!

Communication I understand, is not what we say, write or express, but what the other person understands. Sometimes we say something and the other person understands it as something else, extracting a surprised/ irritated/disgusted/pained, ‘I did not say/mean that,’ response from us.

It is not the tone or intonation that I am talking of, nor is it punctuation, but the actual words which are misunderstood. Because it is believed that a picture says a thousand words, I am sharing with you a few examples I have compiled to clarify, so that I do not end up saying I did not mean that. . Most of them are self-explanatory. If any of these or something similar has happened with you, watch your language, I suggest. 

Food is a sensitive issue for most of us. Let us be clear when we ask a question.

 Although most of those who enjoy the hard stuff prefer to be self-sufficient...

...it is not a bad idea to be a good human being and once in a while help someone in need for a drink.

Good communication is the key to marriage, otherwise all hell might break loose.

Sometimes it is just one word which would qualify your query, especially when it relates to the opposite sex. 

English is a tricky language, you might create a puzzle without being aware of it.

Is it a noun or a verb?

Some more clarifications required!

You may ask for a clarification... 

...or make your own point clear.

Whatever be the case, I suggest all of us keep smiling.

                                                                                                   -Anupama S Mani